“I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel.” Audrey Hepburn
Let’s clear something up: being alone is not the same as being lonely. In fact, many people prefer being alone because that’s their way to recharge and refuel their energy.
Being a loner and enjoying solitude can be a great thing. And people who enjoy being alone are one of the most interesting and fun people to be with. They have many, many amazing qualities that make them extraordinary human beings.
Here are 5 of them:
1. They Are Open-Minded
Many would perceive someone who is reserved and quiet as being judgmental and unsocial. However, this is not true. People who are comfortable being alone are actually more open minded than one would think because they can discuss any topic due to their massive knowledge they have gained during their alone time by reading books watching documentaries, or just focusing on themselves and their thoughts.
2. They Are Exquisite Listeners
All introverts are amazing listeners. This is because when people spend time alone they process things in their heads instead of saying them out loud. So, in turn, their listening ratio is higher than their talking ratio.
They would listen to anyone as long as the conversation doesn’t involve small talk. They hate small talk more than anything.
3. They Are Emotionally Stable
No, they are not neurotic as many people would believe. The word neurotic typically encompasses feelings of anger, fear, worry, anxiety, loneliness, and depressive mood. However, people who enjoy solitude are not by default experiencing those feelings. In fact, they are more in touch with themselves and their emotions.
4. They Are Quickly Over-Stimulated
Studies have shown that people who enjoy spending time alone have a different brain structure than those who are overly social. Namely, people who are socially active have more dopamine reward action in their brain.
The introverts, on the other hand, prefer the acetylcholine, a brain chemical that is similar to dopamine and is connected with the reward system as well. The main difference between them is that this chemical gets activated when people are by themselves and turn inward.
This is why extroverts enjoy loud music and noise, they think it is a part of the fun while introverts prefer the quiet dinners and the comfort of their home.
5. They DO Like People
They have small circles of friends but this doesn’t mean that they don’t like people. They just despise small talk. That’s it.